This blog originally founded by Blogger who holds a theological degree and a doctorate in Counseling Psychology. Taught Psychology for 32 years and is now Professor Emeritus. Is a board-certified psychologist and was awarded the Lifetime Achievement Award in his profession. Ministered as a chaplain, and pastored Baptist and Episcopal churches. Publications cover the integration of psychology and theology. Served in the Army, the Merchant Marines and the Peace Corps.

Tuesday, December 12, 2017

I'm a Woman

   
Most of the time it was considered gentlemanly to open a door for a woman. Then opening a door for a woman became sexist. People are losing their careers because of an ever moving goal post.

I am woman! I can be a fighter pilot, a police officer, a pro-boxer, play tackle football, go into the men's locker room for a sports news interview, can play golf on days other than Wednesday, but don't pat my fanny or ask for my phone number or try and kiss me... it'll make me cry and run to HR and the press.  (Thanks to Sark)

25 comments:

Sarkazein said...

For my Christmas card, I am going to have Santa holding a Confederate flag, sitting next to a bottle of Jack Daniels, while ogling one of the elf's wife. The words- "I'm never running for office, so Marry Christmas!"

Sarkazein said...

Merry... too much Jack Daniels.

Anonymous said...

Sen. Gillibrand has set herself as the puritan sex police. So she went after Trump about his sex life before he became president. Trump replies with a tweet that reminds her that she came to his office “begging” for contributions and said she “would do anything for them” All the mad Alice in Wonderland queens began screaming sexism and “off with his head”

Who said anything about sex!!

Lets turn this upside down for a minute. Suppose this were a male candidate asking for money. We would think that he meant by doing anything, something like getting the government off Trump’s back or other things that would help Trump do his real estate business

These women can’t seem to get sex off their minds.

Anonymous said...

Sark you are on to something about not running. Who in their right mind will do so if they know women are going to burn them at the stake for ever having sex.

Sarkazein said...

Just like the Left turned a hatred of Socialism into racist bigotry, they have turned normal social behavior into sexism. I even heard one Leftist woman use the term "eye rape".

Anonymous said...

I'm hoping you mean by your comment of "pat my fanny", in the locker room?

Sarkazein said...

Anonymous 8:44 AM- No, the fanny pat is now a sexual assault no matter where it happens.... if you are a girl and don't like the guy who patted your fanny. That's why girls can never play tackle football or baseball. Too much sexual assaulting going on after a touchdown or a home run.

Sarkazein said...

I had lunch at Hooters today. I was afraid to leave a tip as I was concerned it might be interpreted wrong.

Wolf's Head said...

Was it half a hundred dollar bill with your phone number on it?

That might be interpreted wrong.

Wolf's Head said...

I just remembered. My youngest son once worked at an Outback Steakhouse in an expensive resort area when he had just turned 18.

After he moved out I found dozens of notes women left him commenting on his looks and having their phone numbers tacked to his wall with suggestions to call them.

Maybe he should sue for sexual harassment in the workplace, he actually had evidence.

guy faulkes said...

Wolf, I have always found it strange that our cubs look so much better than us. All of them ware attractive to the opposite sex wile you and I were lucky to be bruised by being touched with a ten foot pole.

Sarkazein said...

Little boys and little girls tournament wrestle each other. Just crazy.

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Reader said...

Wow! Blogger and Sark!

First of all if you wouldn't pat your Mama's rear, don't be patting anyone's rear.
I am shocked Blogger, you would think that is okay, whether it be back in the day when things were different or not. My mother used to say, "stay away from that dirty old man" when I was young, (there wasn't just one, by the way). Just because there was an age of consent, doesn't make it a good law. I'm just floored because you used to be pastor...Wow, again.

There is only one man who I have every told he was truly a kind man. He was embarrassed and said no, no and was such a humble man. Never said anything out of the way that would offend anyone that I knew of. I know of another godly man and I need to tell him that as well. We don't want to be that way though, we want to live a sinful life. Sin is fun. We can preach all of God's commandments to each other, but actually applying them to our everyday lives are what matters. We can ask God for forgiveness but also need to ask the person we offended for forgiveness.
If any of these men who are accused are guilty, I'd advise them to ask the women for forgiveness and not on social media. That means nothing.

Roy Moore may or may not be guilty of the accusations, that's beside the point. The people of Alabama didn't want him representing them.


Now for the good things. My husband has taught me a lot of things over the years. We think differently and I can learn from him and he can learn from me. If we constantly think we are above each other, then things don't necessarily work for the good. I love a happy, funny and positive attitude in a man. Hey, men are great to have around...that's why God gave us one another. To me, all of you have a good heart and want what's best for our country and fellow man. So that pat on the rear needs to be restricted for home...and your wife can turn around and slap the crap out of you. It seems that pat always comes when we do a walk-by or have our hands full, that way you think you're getting by with it...we ain't stupid, you're not getting by with a thing! LOL

Sarkazein said...

Reader=- You are actually agreeing with me.

Blogger said...

Reader if you will read my post more carefully you will see that I was careful only to point out that for all the reasons I stated, technically Moore is not a pedophile. Therefore, it is libelous to call him one. Trying to sort out what happened 40 years ago is dicey. If true it was awful. But to my trained ear, there was a lot said that did not have the ring of truth. I doubt we will ever know.

But thanks for your comment. I always admire your comments.

Reader said...

Blogger, I don't think he's a pedophile, just a dirty old man, plain and simple.
Most people thought the same or he'd be their next senator. God knows the truth, we don't...but God didn't put him in office at this time.

Okay, Sark my friend...how am I agreeing with you? Wiring of our brains?

I was afraid I'm make you all mad at me.

Sarkazein said...

Reader- Like you, I never said fanny patting or dating underage girls was ok and I don't believe Blogger did either. But, in this recent societal phenomenon it appears there is a mass hysteria. Things our mothers taught us to handle are now things that make us a victim. A victim and proud of it, I would say. Who wants to be the only woman no one ever made an unwanted pass at?
In the Judge Moore accusations, it was 30 years ago. I was at a reunion once where we were talking about old times. I would remember a story one way, and the other person involved would remember it another way. Stories, over the decades, are embellished.. I've embellished a story here and there myself. The man's life's work (Judge Moore) depended on the way a 16 year old remembers a story from 35 years ago. Also, I give people a break after a certain amount of time has passed and they haven't repeated bad behavior. Also, society was changing then. Women were becoming more sexually aggressive in the late Sixties. They were telling dirty jokes and wearing miniskirts instead of poodle skirts. Society adjusts, but when some look back, they wish they had done different and some look for others to blame. Free love sounded good at the time.
This current social phenomenon follows along with the liberal's desire to be a victim. Everyone faces bad things at work not just women. Using the term "fanny pat" is to show the absurdity of a smack on the ass becoming a
"sexual assault". Or asking for a phone number, or going for a kiss becomes "stalking". Men have to be tough at work. Women have to be tough at work. The current social phenomenon is discrediting true sexual harassment just as calling people bigots because they didn't like Obama's political direction discredits true bigotry.
We are turning into a nation of whiners. We will have to only elect asexuals or extremely shy homely people who never experienced life. We didn't get to be a strong nation by not having to experience tough things.. a fanny pat being the least of them.

Sarkazein said...

I can remember the demand- "Hey, watch your language. There are ladies in the room!" I have said that to women, jokingly, who cuss or talk dirty. It gets a laugh every time. I said it in a restaurant to a lady once at a table on the other side of the room. I don't care what she says or how much she cusses, but it illustrates how society has changed.

Reader said...

I agree with you, Sark. Our society has changed so much that even though women want equality, they don't want all of it. They want to work, like you say in the locker rooms, but don't want to hear the "man talk" going on. What do they expect?
If you are in a locker room with men undressed, you're gonna see and hear things that will sometimes offend you. Get another job. I agree also with Mike Pence on his stand about eating out with a woman not his wife. Not good to do that.

By the way, I've been known to hold my own. To me, cursing like a sailor doesn't get you too far, just shows your ignorance and I've been ashamed what has come out this mouth in the past. People have to recognize what they say and do and then change the behavior. Be examples to others.

I have to say men don't really know how to act these days. I've had men ask me what is the right thing to say to women? They feel as if they are between a rock and hard place. Women think they can talk the "man talk", then all of a sudden they are offended if they go too deep into it. It doesn't work both ways. You can't be one of the guys. Sure we can build a house with our hands just like you, we can drive trucks and construction equipment. The one thing we can't do is think like you guys. You have way too much testosterone ripping through your bodies. We have way too much estrogen ripping through ours.

God designed us differently, it's a fact. Men need to start acting like gentlemen again and women need to act like ladies. I'm not stupid though, as I realize that will never ever happen. We can't go back, just need to be able to teach the newest generation, the grandchildren, how kindness overcomes all this backbiting hatred going on.


Sarkazein said...

Thank you Reader for your thoughtful reply. You wrote- "Our society has changed so much that even though women want equality, they don't want all of it.'' That is one of the points I was trying to make.

Anonymous said...

""Our society has changed so much that even though women want equality, they don't want all of it.""

Perhaps you would endorse that men should be as equal as women?

Sarkazein said...

A Woman journalist is suing this man for placing her hand on his knee. How could she have seen that coming? Kiss


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Reader said...

"Perhaps you would endorse that men should be as equal as women"?

Men and women are most definitely equal in essence, anon. What women are not equal in is physical strength and we also lack the aggressiveness men possess. That's why all this intimidation is happening. A person can love their job but if they are harassed in that job then it's up to them to leave the position and find one that sexual harassment is not taking place. There's a difference in working with a man that respects women and a childish man that doesn't. Some women cave, some don't. I just can't fathom how anyone could say they slept with their boss to keep their job.

The bottom line is treating each other with respect and dignity...and that's equal to me.

Sarkazein said...

Reader you wrote- "The bottom line is treating each other with respect and dignity...and that's equal to me."

I agree. The problem is that this will never always happen except in Utopia. So the important thing is how people handle it.

Sarkazein said...

JohnnyRico- Where are you on this latest sexual harassment boom?